Awaken The Giant Within book summary by Tony Robbins

 Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins

Lesson one, decisions determine your destiny, not your conditions. Decisions are a tool that can change your life. The minute you make a new decision you set in motion a new course, effect, direction, and destination for your life. You literally begin to change you life the moment you make a new decision. But remember, if there is no action, then you haven't truly decided. The quality of our lives is based on our decisions. So let's learn how to make them. The five elements that make up a decision are beliefs, rules, values, references, and emotional states. We're going to talk about these now. This brings us to lesson two. Beliefs of events shape our lives, not the events themselves. Beliefs are a feeling of certainty about something. If I get my dream job it's my belief about it that will shape my life, not the job itself. A dream job means nothing without the belief that it enables me to support myself by doing what I love. Most of our beliefs are generalisations about our past based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences. To change a belief, link pain to the old one, and pleasure to the new one. To help you understand this, let's look at an example. Tony doesn't drink alcohol. He believes alcohol brings him more pain than pleasure. He reinforced this belief by drinking so much that he felt horribly sick and vomited everywhere. 

He hasn't drank since. I can resonate with Tony's story. It is very rare that I drink enough to the point of feeling sick, because I have linked massive pain with this through past experiences of drinking too much. I find it much more pleasurable having a few drinks than feeling sick, having your friends clean up your vomit, and suffering from a hangover next morning. So if you want to give up alcohol, for legal reasons I'm not going to suggest that you get blind drunk until you feel like dying, but it's something to think about. Alternative ways to link pain to drinking is to go to a seminar and learn about the negative effects of alcohol consumption. You should also link pleasure to giving up alcohol by keeping track of the money you save, and embracing your family and friends positive response to giving up. The more experiences you have, the more potential there is for changing beliefs. But if you want to believe you can become a millionaire, how do you gain those experiences in the first place? Well, Tony Robins advise is you read books, and learn from the experiences of mentors. Although your own experiences will have a bigger impact on your beliefs, reading about someone else's experiences that led them to become a millionaire will reinforce the belief that you too can become a millionaire. Lesson number three, create rules that make it easy for you to feel pleasure and hard to feel pain. 

A rule is a type of belief that describes what has to happen in order for us to feel good. We all have rules. For example, I have a rule that I'll only feel productive on a day if I've read a book, watched an educational YouTube video, or put effort into creating these videos. Now that we know what rules are, how do we take advantage of them? The key is to create rules for ourselves that will make us feel great, and aren't determined by events outside of our control. Having rules that are reliant on being fulfilled by external influences will set you up for disappointment. In my opinion, a bad rule is to expect appreciation to allow you to feel good every time you help someone. The reality is that not everyone will thank you for your efforts. It's human nature. A much more empowering rule would be to expect to feel good by knowing you've helped someone out, even if they don't thank you. If you donate blood and nobody thanks you create a rule that allows you to feel great about the fact that you've saved three lives, rather than only allowing yourself to feel good after being appreciated. 

If you're longing for happiness what are your rules for what has to happen to make you feel good? Tony's big claim is that nothing has to happen for you to feel happy. You could feel happy right now for absolutely no reason. Think about it. If you make a million dollars, the million dollars doesn't give you any pleasure. It's your rule that says when I hit this mark, then I'll give myself permission to feel good. So just change your rules. The moment you decide to feel good you send a message to your brain to change your responses in the muscles of your face, chest, and body to change your breathing, and to change your biochemistry within your nervous system that causes you to feel the sensations you call pleasure. This rule doesn't rely on outside events, just changing your own thoughts, which makes it a rule where it's easy to feel pleasure and hard to feel pain. Create more of these rules, and you'll make massive improvements in your life. 

The fourth lesson is your values determine the quality of your decisions. The direction of our lives is controlled by our values. For long-term happiness we must live by our highest ideals. We can't do this if we don't know what our values are. Every decision is guided by our values. So if you don't know what they are, prepare for pain. Anytime you have difficulty making an important decision it's because you are not clear about your values. Let's have a look at how Jolie's values affected her big decision to become a performer at Disneyland. Initially, she was thrilled to be working at Disneyland. Her schedule, however, was extremely demanding. It required hourly commutes in rush hour traffic, several hours of rehearsals, and she had to get up very early. This became tiring. The worst part is it cut into her personal life and prevented her from spending time with her family and friends. She began to cry and complain. One morning, she'd had enough. Disneyland became painful for her. Why? 

She could no longer spend time with all those she loved most. She also felt being a trainer, which she was before she went to Disneyland, helped her to grow more than anything else in her life. She didn't feel like she was growing at Disney. So Tony asked her what her values were. She said they were love, health, growth, and accomplishment. He then asked her what's important about working at Disneyland? She said she was originally excited and saw it as an opportunity to make new friends, receive recognition for her work, have fun, and experience a sense of accomplishment. At this point, she said she wasn't feeling accomplished, healthy, or like she was growing anymore. 

Tony said, "If you left Disneyland, spent time at home, "and then went to Hawaii, what would that give you?" She immediately brightened up. "I could have some time with my boyfriend. "I'd feel free again. "I could start exercising and get my body back in shape. "I could find other ways to grow and achieve. "I'd be so happy." Before she started working at Disney she was fulfilling her top three values. Love, health, and growth. By going to Disney she aimed to work on her fourth value, accomplishment. However, by in so doing, she missed out on fulfilling her top three values. This is a common experience where you'll have to realize that we must accomplish our highest values first. So identify your values. Ask yourself what is most important to you in life. Write down 10 values and order them by their importance. 

Some examples are passion, freedom, family, and friends. You can also have 10 values you want to avoid. They could be emotions like humiliation, frustration, depression, and anger. List these in order of which ones you'd like to avoid most. So for ultimate success make sure to live by your values everyday no matter what. There are two more important elements you need to know and how you can use your master system to make great decisions. 

Your lesson number five expand your references to expand your life references are experiences that enable us to more effectively evaluate what things mean and what we can do they include everything we've ever seen heard touched tasted or smelled the more references you have the more choices and opportunities you'll have if you're at a point where you don't know what to do with your life I suggest you gain more references go traveling try something new like martial arts painting or go skydiving my friendly acquaintance Joe made the effort to try skydiving once he absolutely loved it now he is a full time skydiving instructor he would never have had that reference of skydiving if he didn't try and look what he's doing now he jumps out of planes for a living references had typed closely with beliefs which we talked about earlier in this video more references can help support a belief that you want to have if your dream is to be a world-class personal trainer but you're struggling to believe you can be then support the belief with references talk to world-class trainers and ask about their experiences that got them there but why would a world-class trainer talk to me you might say well I guarantee you there are books written by these world-class trainers if you go out and find them if books aren't your thing there are plenty of video interviews on YouTube the sixth lesson is only make important decisions in resourceful emotional states this is Johnny he's building a sandcastle and absolutely loving and this is Brandon Brandon is best friends with Johnny Brandon says to Johnny your castle sucks Johnny laughs and replies I know right feel free to help me the next day Johnny is building a sandcastle but isn't feeling well today Brandon says again your castle sucks this time Johnny gets angry stomps on his castle and storms off Brandon said the same thing in both scenarios but Johnny made different evaluations about the words your castle based on his emotional state when we make decisions about what things mean and what to do we must be in a resourceful state of mind if you're doing a business deal make sure you are feeling well and not resentful or angry otherwise you could make a poor decision I realize this is a very simple concept however we often forget to notice the states were in when making decisions so make an effort to realize this in your day to day life so we've now talked about the five elements that make up a decision again they are beliefs rules values references and emotional states we're going to talk more about one more element that forms part of your master system you'll find out what your master system is after I explained the power of asking the right questions lesson number seven ask the right questions Larry was a Jewish prisoner at Cracow concentration camp during World War two one day he looked at the nightmare around him and confronted a harsh truth if he stayed there one more day he would surely die for weeks he asked other prisoners how can we escape this horrible place don't be a fool they said there is no escape he wouldn't accept these answers all of a sudden he got the answer only a few feet from his work he saw a pile of decaying bodies that had been shoveled into the back of the truck instead of asking how could the Nazis be so heartless he asked how can I use this to escape and instantly he got his answer as an end of the day near and the work party headed back to the barracks Larry ducked behind a truck in a heartbeat he ripped off his clothes and don't make it into the pile of bodies long no one was looking he pretended he was dead the smell was vulgar but he waited and waited finally he heard the truck stop eventually it came to a stop and dumped the bodies including one man pretending to be one of them into a giant open grave outside the camp Larry remained there for hours until night when there was no one there he got up and ran naked 25 miles to freedom this is a real story of a man who asked the right questions to change his fate Tony goes on to say that thinking is nothing but the process of asking and answering questions if after hearing this you're thinking that's true or that's not true you had to ask yourself either consciously or unconsciously a question and that question was is this true so to change the quality of our lives we have to habitually ask empowering questions like Larry did an example of a great question is how can I make this fun Tony asked his question when he had to make he put on his swim trunks and headed for the Jacuzzi he called a few of his business associates in New York and teased them by saying really it's that cold hmm well it's really tough out here in California you know I'm sitting here in my Jacuzzi they all had a laugh and he managed to turn his draw into a game asking yourself these positive questions on a regular basis will help you make better decisions and improve the quality of your life so to put it all together your master system is made up of five components that determine how you evaluate everything that happens in your life making great evaluations will help you make great decisions we just talked about the five components they are your emotional state values questions references and beliefs improving even just one area of your master system will dramatically improve the evaluations you make and therefore your decisions if you are deciding to quit your job for example make use of each component in your master system make sure you're in a resourceful emotional state do you really think it's wise to make the decision to quit your job when you're angry or frustrated go for a walk to calm down and help clear your head before making the decision secondly you should have written down your top ten values in order of importance if your top three values of family passion and peace does your job help you live these values if you're going to war for the army and you rarely get to see your family and you're just doing it for the money then you'll feel empty and unfulfilled because you aren't living your top three values next up ask the right questions ask yourself what are the advantages and disadvantages of staying in my job how can I align my top three values with my current job and do I need to get a new job to live my values this brings us to references have you quit a job in the past if you have reflect on this experience talk to others who have quit their jobs and read about other people's experiences to help guide your decision lastly your beliefs make a big difference in what decision you make personally I don't believe getting a new job with a higher income will make me happier yes it will open up the opportunity for more experiences like an expensive skydiving trip but it is possible to have a bad day and feel unhappy while skydiving I'd rather feel happy just because I can it's so much easier I'm not going to tell you which beliefs you should have but remember an empowering belief is one that makes it easy for you to feel pleasure and hard to feel pain you.

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